Jealousy

One of the upper managers was in our branch today. I had not seen her since about 2 weeks after my surgery. When I walked out of my office she almost fell over. She had a million and one questions, most which I have answered many times -- how I feel, how my energy level is, how much more I have to lose, etc. But one question was one I have not gotten as often -- how much jealousy I have experienced from others. That one really got me to thinking. Most every one has been supportive. One coworker did admit to being jealous but I do think there are others who won't admit to it.
There have been many changes in my life over the years. There have been big changes over the last year and it is looking like there will be even bigger ones in the months to come.
So my thinking has been why these changes are not always recognized by others, but then I realized that they are. It is impossible for them to be missed, but jealousy prevents some people from accepting or acknowledging those changes.
One time many years ago I was treated very badly by a family member. I was discussing it with another family member and she told me she felt the other person was treating me that way because I had the happy marriage that she did not and that she was jealous that hers was not the same. I did not believe that at the time, but now many years later I do realize that I have a lot to be jealous about. I have a wonderful husband and family. My kids are good kids -- they are not perfect, but neither am I and I am perfectly happy in knowing that and saying it. Even when we struggle we are always there for each other. I have a job that I enjoy and that leaves me satisfied at the end of the day -- even the crazy days. I don't have tons of friends, but the ones I have are the best I could ever hope for. And most of all, I have taken the steps to be healthy and have been successful at it.
For those who are jealous, please know that all of this has not come easy. Success and happiness takes work -- and lots of it!